Today was my appointment with my OB.
She made sure the gestational diabetes test results were back. They were, and they are great! No more yucky syrupy drink for me!
My thyroid levels are great too, I have to have them rechecked at the end of august.
My iron is low, which may be why I’m feeling so out of breath and tired. So she wants me an an additional supplement to bring that number back up!
I asked her about the possibility of an early induction to prevent tearing.
Nope. She wasn’t hearing a word of it. She believes that inductions in themselves cause tearing, which can lead to pelvic floor issues. She said that if I wanted a vaginal birth, we just wait until I go into labour. Problem is, Reece is already measuring big. She estimates (from the 27 week growth scan) that he could top the scales at just under 4 kilos! That’s massive. And there is no way known I could push that out and recover from it.
A point she made that was interesting is that even if I have a vaginal delivery and don’t tear, I can still damage my pelvic floor muscles from the straining. Sure, they won’t be cut into, but they can get damage to them that will make things worse in the long run.
She still reccomended a c section. With all the logic she has given me and from what I have read online, I think a c section is the better way to go.
So I told her to book it. Of course, I won’t get a date or time until later in the pregnancy, likely between 34-36 weeks, but it will very likely occur in my 39th week. This way, it doesn’t matter how big he gets, it won’t ruin me for life.
My major concerns with a c section were:
1.) the recovery time (especially as a single mum)
We discussed this and she basically said that most people feel back to normal within 4-6 weeks following a c section. She said that provided I don’t get an infection, usually the only sign that you will have that you had a c section at 8 weeks is a scar. At least it isn’t life long with ten months of physio!
2.) the time spent in hospital
I hate hospitals. They make me anxious, which is made worse by the fact I can’t sleep. Especially in a maternity ward with screaming babies. I want to go in and have my c section done, then IF I can walk, shower, Pee and pick up my baby, I want to leave the next day.
My doctor agreed to this, that if I can walk, manage my pain, Pee and pick up Reece, she will sign off to let me go home.
3.) being told I’m not allowed to have my birth photographer in theatre when Reece is born
This is a big thing for me. I understand that they don’t like more than one person in the operating room at a time, but if I was in a birth suite I could have up to 10 people plus medical staff. I’ve essentially been told there is no other option for me, which leaves me in an operating room.
I’ve paid nearly $2000 for a birth photographer. The point is, she was hired to shoot my birth. I’m not wanting photos of them cutting me open or photos of the gaping hole in my stomach. I want photos of my baby coming out. I want to see the expression on my face when I first see him. I want to remember his expression when he first saw me. I want to see them drying him off and I want to see when he is wrapped in a blanket for the first time.
I want to see his fresh, swollen newborn face, because we all know how quickly their face changes.
And above all that, I want evidence that I went through all that just to have him in this world. That not only did I go through round upon round of IVF and endure a miscarriage, I rocked his birth and brought him life the only way my body could. And in 5 years time when he asks me how he was born, I’ll have photographic proof of how it happened- minus the gory photos!
My OB understands this and wants me to write a letter that she can give to all the senior staff to try to make it happen. She also wants one from my photographer too.
So we will see how that goes! Im hopefully going to write my letter over the next few days, so that I have plenty of time to edit it and change what I want.
But the c section is a go!