So today I was at work and a lady came rushing in with her dog. He was bloodied and she quickly told me he had been hit by a car. She was simply devastated so while the vet and another nurse worked on him, I calmed her down and we began to chat.
Her dog made it! But he is in critical condition and will be in hospital for 1-2 weeks.
Eventually she regained composure (the poor thing) and we got chatting. She was telling me that her other dog is due for vaccines in October and she has decided that because we gave her such good service, that she wanted to start coming to our vet clinic on a permanent basis. She asked what days I worked because she wanted to come on a day I was working.
I told her that I won’t be working in October and she asked me why. I told her that I will be on maternity leave.
We started talking and it turns out, she is a midwife at a private hospital in the city.
I was telling her how I needed a c section due to severe tearing during my first birth and how the doctor thinks it will get worse this time around.
She looked at me like my head had been removed and pasted on backwards.
She told me that if I hadve had all 4th degree tears then yes, she could understand, but not with majority 3rd degree tears.
She explained there are ways to prevent tearing and the fact that Scarlett was posterior certainly did not help. She said that usually tearing is much less with a subsequent birth.
She said that at her hospital, if they think the baby is going to be on the larger side (which so far he has been measuring anywhere between 1-2 weeks ahead) they will induce the mother between 38-39 weeks to get the baby at the slightly smaller size and to therefore prevent tearing.
None of this was ever even offered to me. There wasn’t even a mention of another option! The doctor told me it was either c section or I will tear worse than last time, no exceptions.
Of course, maybe she never said anything because the hospital I’m giving birth at might not offer an earlier induction to prevent tearing. But still, if it’s a valid option, and they would have taken the baby out at the same time anyway, why not?
Of course, there are good and bad points for both.
Negative natural points:
- I could tear again or worse with a natural birth and have severe permanent damage
- It’s unpredictable in terms of time so it would be hard to organise care for Scarlett since my mum is coming into the room with me (unless they induced me and gave me a date)
Positive natural points:
- Possibly less recovery time
- Lacey (my birth photographer) would guaranteed be allowed in the room with me
- I could be in and out of the hospital much quicker with a natural birth
- I would be in pain when I get the epidural so I wouldn’t care about getting it as much, like last time
Negative c-section points:
- Long recovery
- Possible infections
- Difficulty getting around with a toddler and newborn
- Less mobility
- I wouldn’t be able to pick my toddler up
- Lacey may not be able to come into the operating room with me so I may have wasted $1900 and never get birth photographs
- Long hospital stay
Positive c-section points:
- Planned date and time
- I will know what to expect in terms of the operation and recovery time
- Scarlett will have prearranged care
- I have somewhat more control over everything so I feel more in control
That’s all I can think of at the moment.
I just don’t know which way to go. I’m obviously wanting to try natural birth again if I can, I just don’t want to do any more damage to my pelvic floor. I don’t want a colostomy bag at 24 years old and I don’t want to pee myself any more than I already do (which is usually after a cough or sneeze!).
But then again, if I can get out of major abdominal surgery, I’m inclined to take that route.
I have to talk to my OB when I see her in 3 weeks time.
In an ideal world, they would agree to induce me on a certain date (between 38-39 weeks), I have him, then I’m back at home by the next night.
You have no idea how much anxiety I have over the idea of having to spend more than one night in hospital. I don’t like spending time in there and I can’t imagine it even more so now that I have Scarlett.
So I’m going to present these points to my doctor. If she has a problem with inducing me, I’m going to ask why. Why would you have a problem inducing me at the same time that you would perform a c section on me? My baby will be delivered the same day, just by a less invasive way.
What is everyone else’s opinions?